Breaking Up is Hard to Do

I have come to the realization that breaking up with somebody is more than saying, "We aren't together" or "We are no longer friends". Even though those words may be exchanged, you can still be connected to that person. You still think about that person and you may even wonder what they are doing. These are things that no one, including myself wants to admit to.  You think about memories that you shared and time that you spent together. All of this seems to flood your mind as soon as you say "We're done".

When ending an intimate relationship, it is hard to completely break up with that person when you decide to still remain friends. Even though the relationship status has changed, the emotional connections and feelings still remain. In my opinion when you and your ex decided to remain friends you can never completely let go of the feelings and emotions if you continue to be around them. You will always relive the memories and the laughs that you shared together. Its really hard to just be friends with an ex. You truly have to be rid of all of the emotional connections to truly be friends.

Then there are those people that you decide to no longer be friends with. I feel that it is easier to separate yourself from friends because there isn't an intimate physical connection. But it is still a hard connection to break. Especially if you and your friend had a tight bond. Even though you may be mad at that person and the friendship may have ended on bad terms you still think about them and wonder what they are doing.  You may even think about what would have happened if you were still friends and you miss the moments that the both of you shared. I find myself in this very situation right now. There are people that use to be my friend but for one reason or another we fell apart. On one hand you want to mend fences and move forward in a friendship, but on the other hand pride just gets in the way. Restarting a friendship can be weird, awkward, difficult and just plain hard. But if the friendship is worth it both parties will be willing to work through all of the awkwardness. I believe that friendships can be restored because I've experienced it.

These are just my opinions about relationships and friendships. Please comment and give your opinions and stories on the subject matter. I'm open to whatever people have to say.