In this day and age a lot of women claim that they don't need a man to take care of them. They have a job, car, house, make their own money and pay their own bills. That's is a great thing and I don't knock it at all. That's how I want to be one day. There is one thing that is krytonite to the independence of a woman...a man. I can honestly admit that I have become a dependent woman. No, I'm not saying that I need a man and that I can't live without out one, but when you have a man and then lose him it can be a shock to the system. I became use to always having someone there, someone to depend on, someone that is always in my corner no matter what. Now that I don't have that I'm living in a state of shock. Going from a relationship to being single, in my opinion, is a MAJOR mind adjustment. It is especially hard for me because I am a very loving and caring person. I feel like I have so much to give and to have no one to give it to has me feeling backed up in love! LOL.
I am dealing with an adjustment period because I find myself feeling lonely and unwanted and just in need of attention. I became very dependent on another person. This is not a completely bad thing, but I have to shake this feeling. As humans we will always feel the need to be connected to another human being. It is just in our nature. As I am writing this I am realizing that I need to focus all of the love that I have on myself and make myself better. It would be great to have someone to share my life with, but at this time no one wants to share in my love. Honestly it is very hard to focus on myself when I really want to share it with someone. I just really have to get over my need for companionship. It is more than just physical that I desire, I want and need an emotional connection also.
To all of my DEPENDENT women out there just like me, keep your head up! Take some time to focus on you and love yourself. It is ok to be single for a while. Your love will come or come again, its just taking its time to be just right for you!
I do not have the answers to everything so anyone else please post comments with advice or suggestions on how to cope. We need help and motivation.
One Love.
Nikea
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